How often do you acknowledge the strengths you see in others? It is amazing how much it affects you and the other person. Did you know that what we admire in others is something we aspire to? It usually is something that is already one of our strengths but we just haven’t realized or acknowledged it in ourselves.
A client recently went though major changes at the corporation where she works. A new president came in and they had some very serious conversations about her future and where the company was headed. In the end although a bit scared, she was very inspired and excited about the changes.
After spending some time coaching about all that had occurred in her life since the changes were put in place, we realized how energized she was now about her job and all the new possibilities she was seeing. I encouraged her to acknowledge the president on how the changes and management support have affected her. Although calling the president frightened her, she agreed she would find a way to get the nerve to make the phone call. She really did want to authentically share what a gift all the change had created for her.
We got clear on what scared her most when thinking about making that phone call. It was that he would think she was kissing his ass. So I asked how she would like to begin the conversation and she said by making sure he knew she wasn’t! It’s always easier to speak to the elephant in the room. This put her at ease and even made the conversation feel like it might be fun.
I got an excited phone call the next day telling me what a great conversation they had and the president also spent time acknowledging her. A day later he even called her back to thank her for her initial phone call. That really pleased and shocked her. Their relationship has gone to a higher level of mutual trust. Their conversations are now very open and with a positive theme.
You see it’s always nice to know that your own actions have made a difference in someone else’s life. How often do we take the time to actually acknowledge the people that have helped us to see things from a new or different perspective? It provides such wonderful fulfilling energy for you and you can imagine what it does for the other person.
I must admit this topic started for me several weeks ago when I was getting ready to have my beautiful 14 year old Golden Retriever put down. I was so heartbroken about losing one of my best friends in the world that all I could think about was what I would be missing. It occurred to me on that last day I wanted to spend time acknowledging all she had taught our family and what she meant to me.
I became very calm as I held her paws and looked into her eyes sharing with her all the ways she had touched my life and those she had met over the years. You may think I’m crazy, but I could see the joy in her eyes as I shared all that she had brought into our lives. There was a sense of peace for both of us in knowing we had a great life together and it was okay to let go.
Imagine my surprise when one by one five people came that day to spend time and tell her what a difference she had made to our neighborhood. She had brought everyone together with her gentle loving ways and we had all grown from her presence.
What individuals have been or are now making a difference in your life? Have you told them? Don’t you think you both would benefit from that conversation? Why wouldn’t you want to share the gift of acknowledgement, it’s a very powerful tool for everyone. Try it today and notice what kind of a response you get and how you feel afterwards. Acknowledgement is priceless.
Sherry L. Ray, CPCC is a national speaker, international business/life coach, and a Reiki Master/Teacher.