The rational approach to understanding our own behavior is to first understand what controls us. We are all guilty of being controlled by something. Are you the person who lives life consumed by anxiety?
Anxiety is often understood as a condition that stems from a desire or a wish for something that you are in danger of not getting. One consequence of the condition is to yield a result that decreases the anxiety. This is why anxiety can be a healthy part of our everyday lives. On the other hand, anxiety can be both unhealthy and self-sabotaging.
Addictions seem to be the cornerstone of the 21st century. So many of us are addicted to food, sex, relationships, drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc. Most addictions are manifestations of voids that seem to grow along with the urge to abuse whatever it is we are abusing.
Our society is slowly being torn apart and it’s the empty compensations that represent the seam ripper. I want to understand what we are replacing when we overeat or drink ourselves into a stupor. I’m sure the answer to the question is individualistic, but the problem as a whole seems to be affecting us all.
With technological advances combined with the fast pace of this world we live in, we spin helplessly out of control in a vortex of noise. When you think about such things as the increased incidence of suicides, crimes, and diseases linked to obesity, you begin to see a link between the loss of ourselves and the loss of our own self-understanding.
Spiritualists have long supported the idea that we all have a center. Yoga and meditation are often used as mechanisms to get reacquainted with oneself. I don’t believe that we have to be monks or twist ourselves into crazy positions in order to find inner peace and happiness. I do, however, believe that inner peace and happiness are best achieved by knowing and being completely honest with oneself.
The journey to this discovery is best described as taking the long hard road while avoiding the tempting shortcuts that are sure to leave us lost. To tie these points together, the innate fear and anxiety we all share are intricate pieces of what defines our mortality, but the lack of self-understanding appears to feed the demons within us.
Our addictions will no longer have power when we take that power away, hence removing the control from that unhealthy thing that controls you and your life. This task is not any harder than deciding to take out the trash or get a new haircut. You just have to decide to do it.
A favorite quote of mine is one stated by George Eliot, "It is never too late to be what you might have been." I like this quote because it reminds me that tomorrow is always another opportunity to change your life.
Life is full of situations and changes that may leave us feeling defeated. Sometimes just living in fear of the defeat is the defeat itself. When fear is replaced by faith the defeat turns into a necessary experience. This is what resilience is all about. Failures are necessary, flaws are natural and in order to win the game you have to know the significance of what it means to lose.